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Apr. 23rd, 2010



Post-separation anxiety

Well, it was I who got married (finally!). We had our first month anniversary yesterday. ^^

Anyway, to my topic... I have noticed funny thing in our relationship and as I have never confronted this before in relationships which consisted of periods of being away from each other (around stone age when I was still dating Finns) I am prone to think this has to do with cultural issues.

The thing is that every time we get together for longer period of time with Husband we tend to argue about every little thing for the first month and then all the sudden become like two lovebirds again.
And only thing I can imagine causing this is that we have minor cultural shock every time we have spent time separated by continent or few and get back in the same space.

Any thoughts?

Mar. 15th, 2010

typing penguin


Article about parenting in different cultures

An interesting article about parenting in Germany, France, Italy and NYC here:

Nov. 21st, 2009

typing penguin


Let's talk family gatherings/ holiday get-togethers

For many religions and cultures, it's the holiday season. I'd love to hear some of the differences you have encountered in how your own and adopted cultures celebrate- I don't mean Christian vs Muslim festivals or whatever, but cultural differences in different countries for family get-togethers, especially around the holiday season.

For example, where I am from (Switzerland/ Ireland), you would meet up with family, but it would usually only be for either a meal or for a few drinks afterwards- the get-together usually would not last longer than a few hours. Also, it would usually only be close family (siblings, grandparents if alive), and on another day maybe aunts and uncles from one side of the family, then another day aunts and uncles from the other side of the family... so you may end up with 4 or 5 days of celebrations, but each only lasting a few hours, all being in different houses, and rarely more than 12-16 people. Now, I am in the USA; we live in Arkansas, as does one of DH's (who is from here) sister and brothers. But we are all driving up to South Dakota (10+ hours drive, me heavily pregnant and with 21 months old twin toddlers) to his parents, where there will be some 40+ people for Thanksgiving. Even if we meet up here locally, the start of the gathering would be before dinner (which is always late), then for dinner and then games and stuff after, until late into the night.

Oct. 4th, 2009

typing penguin


Differences in baby clothes at home and abroad

Do any of you find there are huge differences in the types of newborn/ baby clothes available wherever you now live vs wherever you are from?

We had twins in Ireland two years ago; we have since moved to Arkansas, USA and I am pregnant again. We just found out our next one is going to be a little girl (healthy and measuring ahead a few days!), so decided to go out celebrate and buy some clothes for her, as we have nothing for newborn- 6 months (gave it all away when we left Ireland, didn't think I could get pregnant naturally!). The twins practically lived in long sleeved onesies/ babygros for the first 6 months, because the buttons at the crotch made them easy to change and we didn't feel bad for throwing a cheap onesie away if it was badly soiled. Well, I cannot find anything like that here! There are some very cute "going out" outfits, and some of them are much cheaper than what I could get in Ireland (Walmart, Target etc), but it is very difficult to find onesies, and none of the trousers/ overalls etc seem to have buttons at the crotch to open. Even the few I have found are more "dressy", there aren't really any plain white ones.

The other thing I noticed is that the vast majority of clothes here are gender specific; either pink or blue, have frills, princesses on them or trucks and batman....

What differences have you noticed?

Aug. 20th, 2009



Brief intro

Good time of the day. :)

I just found the community, obviously also joined, and thought it would be courteous to get this over with. *grin*

We are a Finnish (myself) - British (my fiance) couple in our early thirties, currently living in Finland and planning to get married as soon as he gets the paperwork done in Spain, where he used to reside in (before he moved here), and returns back home.
Our relationship is more intercultural than you could imagine based on our citizenships (though he actually has a double citizenship): I have been brought up somewhat out of the local culture and my Better Half is not just British, but his roots are in Western Africa and Caribbean area and in addition to that he has lived all around the world since he was a child so there has been quite many cultures affecting to the man he grew up to be.

No children yet, though we love kids and would love to have a big family (G-d willing), but as we have been together only for a year (and one week) it's not that much of a surprise.

Well... I have never been good at introductions, so if you have any questions just ask - I am far better at answering. :)

Aug. 1st, 2009

typing penguin


Pregnancies in different countries

Has anyone here had pregnancies in different countries (asp. the USA and another country) and found the differences difficult to deal with?

My first pregnancy was in Ireland, and twins, we had health insurance and paid extra for private care. I am now pregnant again, with a singleton, living in Arkansas, no maternity cover (we are self-paying, I didn't want to go the welfare route and local doc and hospital give great discounts for self-paying). I feel like I am pregnant the first time again, everything is so different! Not better or worse (well, some thing better, some worse- some just different). It's little things such as in Ireland, they tell you to eat what you want (other than off-limits stuff such as unpasteurised cheese) and gain as much weight as happens, whereas here they say a pound a week in 2nd and 3rd trimester; to medium things- if you don't pay private in Ireland, you will be in a room with 5 other moms and newborns after delivery, whereas here all rooms are private; to big things such as in Ireland, VBAC is very encouraged and you would not get a RCS unless absolutely medically neccessary, c-section is never done for a big baby without long trial of labour, whereas here I have to fight for my VBAC and probably won't get it anyway.

Apr. 3rd, 2009


Is this just an English view?

I know this vision of expats (people living in a foreign country) does not apply to this community where there are usually family reasons for living abroad but it made me laugh as I recognise a lot of retired English people who live in the tourist areas on the Agean coast.

"Stand still, wimp – only failures run off to be expats"


Of course I don't agree with him! He is broadbrush generalising and being, I suspect, deliberately obnoxious. You should never put Gin on cornflakes. Vodka every time!
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